When faced with life’s difficulties and something comes up, we build something around it to channel that. When we practice with these things, we come to live a fuller life. You can’t cultivate patience without practicing it. Feel the grief, and do not make it in to anything more. People act out because they don’t want to feel sadness. The noble path is to feel and know discomfort. Don’t repress it or vent it. Pepople who are the most pain avoidant (ie, my ex) also have the least joy in their lives. Yogis need to be open to feeling everything.